Do we want a good conception story to embarrass our child with one day? The setting for conception stories is likely to be different for everyone. IVF families, for example, might consider it the moment when the sperm fertilized the egg, or when the embryo was transfered. Parents who conceive through old fashioned sex might have a conception story based on where they were having the sex that led to the pregnancy. Because it is pretty much impossible for us to know the exact moment when the sperm fertilizes the egg, and because we don’t do the traditional baby dance, the act of delivering the sperm on its journey up into the fallopian tubes is what I consider our conception story. That is, if a baby results from that batch of sperm.
Unless you get pregnant by accident, you have some opportunity to set the scene, intentionally designing your child’s conception story. In our first ttc cycle, we inseminated 3 times. The first time was a learning experience… we were just trying to figure out what we were doing, and do it as quickly as possible. There was no setting of the mood (although I did shave my legs…). The second time we were watching Harry Potter in the background. The mood in the room was still quite distracted as I tried (and failed) to get comfortable, and my wife was super focused. The third time an important blue jays game was on, and we turned it off just long enough to do the insemination because I refused to do the deed to the sound of a sportscaster’s voice.
Since that cycle didn’t work, we have another chance to have a good story (or at least a romantic story) for the eve of our future child’s conception.