I have a pretty selfish dream for the first 24 hours with baby. I want that time to quietly and calmly adjust to parenting with just my wife and I. If we are in the hospital, I don’t want a waiting room full of family waiting to come in to the room where I am likely going to be emotional and sweaty and bleeding. I have been respectfully breaking it to people over the last several months that we will call them AFTER the baby is born and we will schedule some short visits.
I know that people often give the advice to take any and all help that is offered to you, but I am an independent and stubborn person who gets frustrated by people trying to help me do things, and I get anxious when people try to offer advice that I don’t want to hear. I want to be able to learn to take care of the baby on my own – I don’t want people looking over my shoulder suggesting this and that for breastfeeding, diaper changes, what this or that cry really means, etc. I want to feel like I can awkwardly learn how to care for the baby without being observed and scrutinized by those who have done it before with their own babies. My wife is also only taking a week off, and I want that time with her to properly bond as a family and just be together. I don’t want that to be interrupted by a steady stream of house guests.
I think I’m more stressed about managing visitors after the birth than I am about the birth itself!