Gentle Sleep Methods: The Floor Bed

Catch the start of my Gentle Sleep Experiment here, and the summary of how my first attempt went, here.

After an unsuccessful attempt at getting Avery used to her crib using a combination of no-cry sleep training and Gentle Baby sleep methods, I reassessed our situation.

She sleeps like a log all night long while next to me in our bed. 

She wakes in a fret all night long when alone in her crib. 

I belong to the baby sleep camp that believes this is her way of telling me she legitimately needs me for comfort. And my parenting instincts are telling me to be there for her. I know there are sleep consultants and sleep trainers out there who would say that she just needs to get used to her crib and I need to allow her to protest and not give in. They would tell me that I’m not doing her any favours by forming “negative” sleep associations like nursing to sleep – how will she ever learn to fall asleep on her own?? I’ve tried to get on board with that perspective, but I’ve come to realize that those methods just don’t sit right with me. 

So I’ve started using a new gentle method for getting her to feel more comfortable in her own room and in her own bed: The Floor Bed. 

I now sleep next to Avery on her crib mattress on the floor beside her crib. She can nurse as much as she wants through the night, and she goes to sleep easily with a quick nurse and a cuddle after a good, solid, predictable bedtime routine with her Mo that lasts about 10 minutes. I try to leave her through the night when she’s deep in sleep, but I tend to fall asleep and not wake up until she needs milk again, so I haven’t been getting back to my own bed.

So, the big question.

Is it working?

Yes, almost as well as bed sharing in her moms’ bed. She sleeps anywhere from 2-4 hours at a time. When she wakes up hungry in the first half of the night she nurses back to sleep easily and neither of us have to move. When she wakes in the second half of the night (2-6am) she is less easily comforted. I need to get up and nurse her in the chair, but then I can put her down on the mattress and can usually leave the room for a bit. I’ve also been able to have a few evenings back where she sleeps in her room on her own between her bedtime and my bedtime. The only evenings where this hasn’t happened, I blame teething. She’s working on 3 new teeth and until that Tylenol kicks in she’s super clingy and upset. 

My favourite part of sleeping next to her still (or being able to lay down next to her when she calls me in the night) is the she has started to sometimes fall back to sleep by simply putting her hand on the breast as if to make sure it’s still there. Such a peaceful and easy way to make her content in the night. 

Its been 2 weeks. I’d like to start working on leaving her alone in her room on the floor mattress and sleeping in my own bed. The challenge will be consistency when I am tired as f***. How am I supposed to just get her to sleep by laying next to her and NOT fall asleep myself? It takes 20 minutes for her to enter deep sleep, and it seems pretty instantaneous for me. By the time she’s ready to be left, I’m out cold. 

I miss my wife and I really want to make my own transition back to our bed work. It’s a slow but steady process. 

Wish me luck…

4 thoughts on “Gentle Sleep Methods: The Floor Bed”

  1. Good luck! Sounds like it’s starting to get better. I wouldn’t worry about negative sleep habits. I don’t know any middle schoolers who have to be nursed to sleep 🙂 just do whatever you feel is right for your family in that moment. You’re doing great!

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  2. That sounds great! I’m glad you found something that is working, and can also transition. How much does using a phone interrupt her sleeping? When I have to just be patient in the middle of the night to get Lady Jr to sleep, but also have to resist drifting off myself, I usually read a book on my phone for a bit. The time passes faster and I don’t risk passing out on top of her.

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