We have seen 3 home daycares so far. The process has not brought out the best in my marriage. It turns out we differ on several important parenting issues and discussing the pros and cons of each daycare has brought these to the fore.
It has been a tense week.
Surprisingly, I loved two of the three we saw. I thought I would be VERY critical of the person who would be trusted with my precious little soul of a baby. Turns out, all I need to feel comfortable is a good vibe. I like the warm, open and inviting caregivers who are flexible, and just want to spend their day doting on a couple of cute babies.
Here’s a taste of the daycare that made me loose sleep the night after seeing it. My wife actually liked this one the most.
When I asked what this caregiver would do for a 12 month old (how old Avery will be when she starts daycare) who still needs 2 naps and needs a lot of help getting to sleep, she said “we do one nap a day. Everyone lies down, and I check on them periodically, but I don’t let them up for 2 hours. After about a month they’ll figure out what’s expected of them and they’ll start sleeping during that time.”
Ahem… Deal breaker. Anyone who has read about my sleep struggles with Avery will know that leaving her in a room with 5 other kids without cuddles or milk for 2 hours is not going to go well. It’s not just her who won’t get any sleep… And the fact that this provider was too rigid to work with us on Avery’s sleep schedule even a little bit was very off-putting. She’s also having a second baby of her own in 2 weeks, and I don’t like the idea of Avery’s needs being in competition with the woman’s own brand new baby. She also flinched when I said we do baby-led weaning and said she couldn’t tolerate the mess with her son so couldn’t do that.
We have one more daycare to see this week, and then we figure out if I need to keep scouring the internet for more places that have openings – if my wife and I just can’t get on the same page and need more options. Daycare hunting is dramatic… Did anyone else have disagreements with their partner over what daycare to go with? Did you compromise/resolve it, or just keep looking till you found something you both loved?