Why I let my baby cry… and hated it

Shit has hit the fan with sleep. I was used to waking every hour at night with my almost 10 month old, but all of a sudden our once reliable naps became a battle, and our 15 minute bedtime routine reverted back to the 2 or 3 hour gong show... It is so much work to get her to sleep right now. Last night I was entering hour 3 of this nightly battle and I had run out of comfort to give.

An update on sleep

I've kind of settled into this life of little sleep. It has been 9 months and 1 week since I slept through the night. No, that's not true. There was a while there when Avery was 5-6 months old that I demanded we bed share because the dreaded 4 month sleep regression had destroyed any… Continue reading An update on sleep

The Lullaby as a family heirloom

I'm talking about your every day, run of the mill, possibly out of tune (but it doesn't matter) lullabies. They don't have to be anything fancy, and they may be the same songs that many other families sang and cherished as their own. But there is something very meaningful and sentimental about these songs. I… Continue reading The Lullaby as a family heirloom

Four Pillars of a Bad Night’s Sleep

Avery is sick. She is teething. She seems to be going through the 8 month sleep regression, and the 3-to-2 per day nap transition. We haven't slept in days.  The Sick I think she must have gotten sick from the Tylenol dropper... Is that possible? We gave it to her last time she was sick,… Continue reading Four Pillars of a Bad Night’s Sleep

Weekend update: Easter

It was a beautiful spring long weekend. My wife got four days off (her new job gives both Easter Friday and Monday off!) and we only spent one day away from home. It was ideal. Busy, but at least we were busy in our own home doing our own stuff. Oh, and we were both… Continue reading Weekend update: Easter

Gentle Sleep Methods: The Floor Bed

I know there are sleep consultants and sleep trainers out there who would say that she just needs to get used to her crib and I need to allow her to protest and not give in. They would tell me that I'm not doing her any favours by forming "negative" sleep associations like nursing to sleep - how will she ever learn to fall asleep on her own?? I've tried to get on board with that perspective, but I've come to realize that those methods just don't sit right with me.

Regrets 

I'm usually an eternal optimist who is really good at compartmentalizing and shoving under the rug any negativity. But lately I've been thinking a lot about things I regret so far in my parenting experience. Maybe it's because I've thought seriously about the fact that we may not have another child and I may not… Continue reading Regrets 

A Gentle Baby Sleep Experiment: The Conclusion

I used gentle baby sleep methods to try to get my bed-sharing baby used to sleeping in the crib. Did I make it till the end of the 10 days I challenged us to? Are we sleeping peacefully with baby in the crib using only gentle methods? Here's a re-cap of our 10 night challenge.  NIGHT ONE… Continue reading A Gentle Baby Sleep Experiment: The Conclusion

A gentle baby sleep experiment

Last night was night 1 of 10 in a sleep "training" challenge for us. Avery sleeps perfectly through the night (11 hours) when she bed shares, but we're ready to kick her out for the sake of my back and our intimacy as a couple. I've tried moving her to the crib a few times… Continue reading A gentle baby sleep experiment