3 Things on Sunday

1. My PhD research proposal was accepted!! I waited a month for my advisory committee to come together for a meeting, and the meeting went amazingly well. I can finally – after 3 years and 2 other proposal attempts that fell through for different reasons – finally, move on to actually DOING THE RESEARCH and finishing this f-ing degree and get a job.

2. I had my first me-time in a long time getting my hair done this weekend, but thoughts of how expensive it was going to be and how much I just wanted to be home with my little family made the whole 2 hour process unenjoyable. It’s funny how you can be at your wit’s end with trying to keep up with your demanding toddler’s needs and then in only 5 minutes of being alone feel like your heart is aching from missing that wonderful, demanding toddler.

3. Night weaning is going really well, but sleep isn’t… It’s complicated. Avery has been sick forever and the cough still keeps her up at night. The doctor assures us it’s normal for kids her age in daycare to be sick for this long, and for things like runny noses and coughs to linger well beyond the duration of the actual bug. She’s also struggling with yet another itchy post-viral rash (apparently she’s prone to them). So she does a lot of crying through the night, and I used to be able to make her feel better by nursing. Now we just put a hand on her back and lay next to her while she fusses, and she doesn’t even ask for milk to help her get through it. She just deals with it. It makes me proud of her, and also sad that the instant comfort phase of her life is over. She makes her own comfort, now. That said, last night she was really upset, and I brought her into our bed to sleep on top of me. Just because we’ve night weaned doesn’t mean we’ll let her suffer all night or go without sleep.

The good news is, she usually goes from 7pm to 4am with only one wake up that we need to go to her bedside for (that one wake up takes 2 minutes for my wife and an hour for me, though). The bad news is, 4am is when she wakes up for the day now… We’ve let her have an earlier nap to compensate, but that just messes with her afternoon energy levels. Can’t wait for her to settle into the new normal without night (and morning) nursing and hopefully find a good rhythm we can all be happy with.


4 random and unexciting things on a Saturday. A truly boring read, I’m sure. 

  1. I’ve drafted 7 blog posts recently that I’m eager to post, but for various reasons they’re not ready to go live yet. Some are more professional-blogger-ish (my first affiliate links!). Others are personal ramblings. I have a lot of big thoughts and feelings to express. 
  2. Marriage and motherhood do not naturally compliment each other. It takes a lot of work, communication, and energy to make both work harmoniously. We have been working on this. It is hard, but so worth the tough conversations. I want Avery to have a healthy relationship modeled for her. And my wife and I had a great marriage before the baby was born and I never want Avery to think that she was the reason for any struggles we go through as a couple. 
  3. Screw you, PhD. I have so much stress right now from not getting enough work done on my PhD. We’re going to try a new schedule where my wife cooks dinner and takes the baby on Tuesday and Thursday evenings so I can work. I currently feel like I have no energy left for school work after Avery goes to bed, but perhaps there’s a mental sweet spot I can tap into from 4:30-6:30.
  4. We had a beach day at my wife’s family cottage today and it was great. Avery LOVES being outside. She was agreeable and fun from her 5:50am wakeup till we got in the car at 8pm to leave. We pushed her a little late… Look for adorable beach baby pictures to come when I get the SD card loaded on my computer later.

    Happy weekend, everyone.