Writing a Dissertation Takes FOREVER

I'm still at the proposal stage. This is my third proposal in three years. The first proposal I wrote was my favourite, but my community partner fell through (I was supposed to work with PFLAG, but the ED stopped returning my calls and emails with no explanation). My second proposal was co-developed by a co-advisor… Continue reading Writing a Dissertation Takes FOREVER

Daycare countdown: planning sleep strategies

Avery and I start the daycare transition in 7 days. I am equal parts anxious and heartbroken, and excited for her to make friends and gain new experiences. Our daycare provider, whom I will herein refer to as Gwen, asked me to give her a list of Avery's favourite foods and foods she doesn't like,… Continue reading Daycare countdown: planning sleep strategies

Sexy nursing bras – are they mutually exclusive concepts? 

... It's really hard to see my breasts as something sexual. When I need to breastfeed in front of family, the last thing I want is to feel like I'm revealing sexualized breasts to everyone. But after a while... after a year in the same drab nursing bras with cotton pads stuffed in there to absorb milky leaks, sometimes partners will start to mourn the loss of sexualized breasts. I think this is totally fair. So is not wanting your breasts to be sexual things while breastfeeding your offspring. It's a tough subject.

Risking their right to privacy: mom bloggers and “sharenting”   

I've always been a big sharer of personal stories. I disclose embarrassing anecdotes about myself at parties, and I am drawn to blogging as a way to share my personal experiences with others. My wife, on the other hand, has always been a very private person. We are always having conversations about how much to… Continue reading Risking their right to privacy: mom bloggers and “sharenting”   

Simplicity Parenting, a review 

I started drafting this review back in March. Then I fell off the book club bandwagon. I missed the meeting where we discussed this book, and the next book... But I'm back on track for July. And I did read Simplicity Parenting, so I thought I'd make a brief review post about it now. Better… Continue reading Simplicity Parenting, a review 

I Resigned

Tonight was the Annual General Meeting of the not-for-profit I have chaired for the past two years (and have been an executive director of for three years). I resigned tonight. It felt amazing.  The organization is Out On The Shelf (www.outontheshelf.com). It's a queer resource centre and library. When I joined the board we were… Continue reading I Resigned

The Work-At-Home-Parent

I see a lot of posts on social media about what it means to be a stay at home parent or a working parent, how these parents made the decision to stay at home or go back to work, and the guilt and pressures they feel about their decision (because ALL parents feel guilt). I… Continue reading The Work-At-Home-Parent

Self-Care Campaign

Inspired by International Women's Day (and the #daywithoutawoman campaign that has my friends all taking the day off of work) I'm starting a self-care campaign for myself and anyone else who wants in on this challenge. I'm using the hashtag #selfcareformama on twitter (@momwithawife). I was a pro at self-care when I was pregnant. I meditated, ate… Continue reading Self-Care Campaign