I've kind of settled into this life of little sleep. It has been 9 months and 1 week since I slept through the night. No, that's not true. There was a while there when Avery was 5-6 months old that I demanded we bed share because the dreaded 4 month sleep regression had destroyed any… Continue reading An update on sleep
This child is my pure joy, my light, my sustenance. I am so thankful to be her mother. I am so thankful that my wife and I get to share the experience of being her mother. This little girl is going to continue to shape our lives in amazing and unexpected ways, and that makes… Continue reading Our First Mothers’ Day
We were all sick, all weekend. My wife took a sick day on Monday and it allowed me to take 20 minutes to get some garden weeding done and another 20 minutes to have a BATH!! (it has been so long since I've soaked...). But it's true what they say, mothers don't get a sick… Continue reading 3 Things on a Wednesday
I have been wanting backyard chickens since I moved to this house with its big yard 6 years ago. This year, we took the plunge. The timing seemed right because the bylaws just changed this spring making it easier for people to have backyard flocks, and because we have a child now who will learn… Continue reading Getting Our Flock: Backyard Chickens
On Saturday we took Avery to her first Pride event! She slept through the whole thing but what matters is that she was there. The not-for-profit I chair is host to my city's Pride Week (although a subcommittee does all the Pride planning - I'm not at all hands on with that). Every year we… Continue reading Weekend Update
I took Avery to campus with me this week to pick up some paperwork for my taxes, and I bumped into an old roommate. We hadn't seen each other since before I married, although he knows my wife from when we were dating. He's a really cool guy and I always wished we'd been able… Continue reading A Community of Families
Guys, Avery is 2/3rds of the way through her first year. I know how often new parents are warned, "it goes by so fast," but holy hell, I think time is speeding up with every passing month. New This Month Mobility/Gross Motor Crawling is on the horizon. She scoots forward and… Continue reading Avery’s 8th Month
I had a hair appointment yesterday. My wife stayed home with the baby so I could go and get an awesome new look and feel like a new me. It was supposed to be fun, relaxing, a happy escape for a couple of hours. But I was struck with separation anxiety about halfway through the… Continue reading Separation Anxiety… In mama, not baby
I know there are sleep consultants and sleep trainers out there who would say that she just needs to get used to her crib and I need to allow her to protest and not give in. They would tell me that I'm not doing her any favours by forming "negative" sleep associations like nursing to sleep - how will she ever learn to fall asleep on her own?? I've tried to get on board with that perspective, but I've come to realize that those methods just don't sit right with me.
I just want to look at my baby and feel like she is perfectly happy, healthy, and carefree. Do we ever get to that point as parents, or will there always be something to worry about?